Thanks Joey. I appreciate that, and don't worry, it gave me more time to think about it. :) Thanks Dan for giving me more advice on this matter. I just don't want to fall and hurt my back.

Fabian has a heart that is bigger than all the gold in the world. Nothing wrong with that. But there is that fine line. I think I have a good heart as well and treat my wife like a lady but she loves me for many reasons.

I hate it when someone gets hurt, but as an experience man of hurt, in most cases strength attracts more ladies than weakness. Some men don't understand strength and think being rude or acting arrogant is being strong -- that's wrong. Strength comes from certainty.

Joey hit on a good point. What a women can get away with in her behavior won't work for most men.

I think a women wants to feel protected. I know my wife says all the time that when I'm around she has no fears. Even my brother told me that once. I remember him saying to me "bro, when I'm with you, I feel we can conquer the world."

I think a women wants to feel that from a man. If he comes across as negative, or weak, it may give her doubts.

I should put my emotions into perspective and say that I get as scared as the next guy. But I also learn quickly when it comes to finding a mate, she wants someone who is a gentleman but fearless in his attitude towards love. Not desperate, not negative, not uncertain, not hopeless, but someone she can count on even when he is scared as hell inside.

My only suggestion is ask a lady friend for feedback. I tell you, Fabian, you never know what causes a lady to form an opinion. I can use a good example of myself to explain what I mean. Without sounding arrogant, in my younger days I was in pretty good shape. I could wear those tight body shirts without any problems. I figure showing off the best side of me was the way to go. To my surprise, instead, it turned off most ladies. My image came across as arrogant and only spammers were coming after me to play on my ego.

I had to try several different ways to sale myself. I needed to look and act more like husband material and once I figured that out, the better the results. I also had to learn to look for a lady who had true depth. A lot of ladies only give you one or two lines and don't even bother filling out their entire profile. I stop contacting those ladies.

Lastly, I had to keep my attitude in check. Even if I felt like "poor me" I knew it was a turn off for ladies. Being open too early usually hurts you -- if you are looking for someone that will fall for you, keeping your emotions in check, your baggage at home and as long as you are polite, you can meet some quality ladies who will be interested in you. Again, KEEP YOUR EMOTIONS IN CHECK. If you meet a new lady today and next week you are talking about visiting her in the PI, you are doing it wrong. Too early, too soon, no suspense, and a lady loses interest.

If a lady says something you don't like, don't preach, be strong, and walk away. The last thing you want to do is come across as a victim. The ladies chatter and before you know it the lady network is talking about your behavior.

So, in summary, if I was a member of this site looking for love and wasn't having any luck, I would take a look at my profile, my picture, check out how I'm coming across in my blogs, etc, and adjust accordingly. I know when I was looking for love (we did not have blogs), I must of changed my profile image and profile words at least a dozen times until I got it right.

Guess what, it worked. I found her.

Good luck, bud.