Raised by a mother, who lived in an abusive relationship with my step-father, I learned at a tender age to hate male abuse of women. As a result I became overly considerate of women as I grew into adulthood. Considerate to the point where I could barely take the initiative sexually, as I was afraid I might offend the girl. In addition I’m a genuinely kind soul, and hate raised voices. Like most Swedes I’m conflict shy to boot.

Going through my adolescence during the first bloom of Feminism I was extremely ill equipped to deal with the new aggressive woman that emerged at the time. As might be expected I was easy prey for these go getters and suffered a lot of verbal and even some physical abuse from such assertive women.

Seeking a Filipina who is as non-abusive as I am, I wonder; how will I recognize such a woman? Are there any specifics I should peel my eyes at, when reading the profiles. Almost all of them mention being “sweet” so I don’t trust that. Any hints from Filipinas or Westerners with good experiences would be appreciated.