I’m in one of those reminiscing moods and wanted to take a moment to jot down my days of looking for love. I spent 23 years in the miliary traveling the world. I was married twice in those 23 years to American ladies. After I retired from the military, it took me a while to adjust. To this day I may still be adjusting, but now I’m at least with a beautiful wife who loves me.

After I retired and my second divorce, I thought I would never marry again. I played the field for some time, but after a while you miss being with someone who cares for you as a person. I can’t put it into words, but my life as a bachelor had it share of ups and downs, including my share of broken relationships.

I decided that the nightlife was not something I wanted to do in my old age and since I was not getting any younger, I knew any hope of finding love again was slipping by. It was a Friday night. I was ready to hit the clubs, but at the last minute I decided I was going to stay home. I sat down to my computer and started to browse the dating sites. There were many, too many. I stayed away from the big corporate sites. It all seem too impersonal.

While browsing, I ran across a few sites that were strictly Asian. They were small sites and seem very personable. I found myself coming back to a few of these sites as the days went by. Since the membership was inexpensive (less than a night out at a club), I joined one of the smaller sites.

It didn’t take long before I was corresponding with some of the lady members. However, things were not clicking with the ladies I was corresponding with. It wasn’t because they were not friendly, there just wasn’t enough chemistry to spark a relationship. The chemistry issue went both ways. For some ladies, I was not their cup of tea.

I thought all that was going to come of this dating site was a lot of lady friends who lived thousands of miles from me. It was one lady who said to me that friendship is your education for finding love. It was true. Even though I was not making any relationship connections, I was learning a lot about the Filipino culture.

I also had my share of ladies that would give me their undying love for a price. I’m somewhat of a skeptic anyhow, so any lady who seemed more interested in money than love, was crossed off my list.

Somewhere along the way (probably within a month) my attitude towards finding love was developed. I told myself that this was the most important thing I was going to do in my life and to expect it to be easy was unrealistic. Nothing seem to come easy for me. If I wanted it, I had to work for it. I decided on a routine for finding love. I knew that the routine would not reap any results 99% of the time, but I knew if I was persistent, if I did not give up, there would be that 1% that could change my world. Twelve months later, that 1% came along.

God only knows if I would of given up if I would of ever found her - probably not. If I would of decided to not keep at my routine day in and day out, good chance I would of missed the opportunity to find the love of my life.

If you are asking, what was my routine, I will explain it this way. Everyday I would do everything possible on the site to network my profile. Some days I worked harder at it than others, but I never skipped a day. My fear was if I did skip a day, that would be the day I would miss the love of my life. I’m not saying it was easy, what I’m saying is that my attitude was I would keep at it until I found what I was looking for. I had nothing to lose, except my loneliness.

Don’t get me wrong. The journey was not all drudge. I made some good friends along the way. I got to learn a lot about the Philippines from talking with others. Even before I found my love on the net, a few of the ladies I made friends with said if I ever came to the Philippines, they would gladly be my tour guide and introduce me to their friends. All in all for the cost of the membership I was not complaining, even though I did meet my share of scammers as well.

I was definitely on a mission to find love. It may of took me a while to find her, but that year of searching compared to finding a lifetime of happiness doesn’t compare. I always tell members be persistent, keep at it and don’t’ give up. When I get an email from someone, after a few weeks of membership complaining about not finding love, I have very little compassion for their plight. They are expecting too much for too little effort. If there is a grand plan by an Almighty, I think before you take on the responsibility of loving someone, He would want to be sure you have the character and withal to stay the course no matter how tough the journey may be. I stayed the course and He rewarded me with a lifetime of happiness.

Good luck to all

Filipina Lady Net