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As a webmaster of a Filipina Penpal and dating site, I’m astonished at some member’s relationship approach. For whatever reason, they look at online dating as a jump from meeting to instant marriage without any courtship. This is not the road to assume for a successful marriage, be it you meet at an online dating site or your local church.

Most initial contact is based on physical attraction. However, I recommend to members of my site to start out as penpals and act accordingly. No sexual innuendos, no promises, no commitments — take your time getting to know each other and see where it leads. Relationships based solely on looks is usually a recipe for disaster. I’m not saying attraction is not important, but it isn’t the sole criterion to sustaining a long and happy marriage. There has to be more to a relationship than the way he or she looks, but also on what he or she has in common.

Online dating to some is an avenue to get around the courtship process. They see somebody online, swap a few emails, and instantaneously declare love. In a conventional dating scenario you don’t habitually declare love after a few dates. Why should online dating be at all different? The courting progression after meeting someone online should be parallel to traditional dating. There is an attraction, you swap emails, and if attraction is sparked you flirt, correspond, and even do a form of established dating through online chats, phone calls and spending time getting to know each other. Online dating is not an environment where marriage success is magically assured with a “hello” to a “I do” without involving the courting process.

Taking the penpal attitude to meeting someone online, may help keep your conduct in check. I’m taken aback when a gentleman is flirting with a lady within the first or second email. This person is usually trying to skirt the courtship process and in doing so is asking for problems. Many who flirt when flirting is not proper, is the sort of person a hustler is looking for. Keeping your words proper for the juncture of the relationship you are in and by starting out as penpals, may be your safest and best attitude to finding true love.

If you are in a rush or feel you don’t have time to squander looking for love, you need to reshuffle your priorities or in the long run you may waste a lot more time in divorce court or mixed up with an unhappy marriage. Do yourself a act of kindness — be a penpal first and let the stages of courtship mature naturally. If you are as blessed as I was, not only will you achieve true love, but also a best friend for life.

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