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Asian Dating Misguided

Asian Dating Misguided


 Many members have the wrong state of mind or viewpoint when joining a dating site. It is a fast food mentality that must not be part of discovering the love of your life. I have members complain after a month about not finding love, yet in a physical dating world, a lot of of us would not expect to find the love of our life after a few dates during the first month of searching bars, your local church or any other conducive hot spot people use to find a mate. Why must it be any different when searching for love on the internet.

It is not male or female specific this phenomena of desiring instant love. Male and female members alike hope to meet someone within a week, court for a few days and announce their eternal love before the month is over. I'm far from a love connoisseur, but it would seem this kind of mentality would have more damaging than positive results. Worse, this kind of mentality is a hustlers dream. Ms Hustler throws a few honeys, sweethearts and a big smile your way and you assume you have found the lady or your dreams. Slow down and give that smile some time to see if there is more behind that smile than expressions of endearment. And don't let Mr Hustler pledge you riches or a job that pays you for looking pretty without first getting to know who the man is behind the plan. The old saying that if something is too good to be true, generally is the case when hustlers are trying to drain your resources. Again, slow down. Get to know each other. If you are looking for love for a lifetime, take some time getting to know who that love may be.

The phrase "mail order bride" is part of the motivation why many assume they are on a shopping spree instead of providing themselves the sufficient time to get to understand the other person. I bet some people take more time shopping for a car or making a major acquisition than they do romancing each other. Yet, of all the decisions you may possibly make in your life, discovering someone to spend the remainder of your life with may be the most imperative decision you will ever make. That is why it boggles my mind when people nitpick about not discovering love after a couple of weeks. A decision that significant should be given enough time to know if it will be a life time of love or a slam bam welcome sir or ma'am.

There are no promises, but the best counsel any online dating webmaster can offer their members is to get to know a handful of people to see if there might be a possibility for romance. Start out as friends or penpals to see if there is some common ground for romance. If there is a strong physical attraction, don't react to your hormones. Instead, let that attraction be the spring board to getting to appreciate the other person because in time the sparks will simmer to normality. There have been several couples that when they first meet, found a characteristic in the other person that made their whistle blow but years later discovered that same feature revolting. Spending time getting to understand each other before matrimony is better than spending time getting to know each other after the wedding that ends with divorce, alimony and all the other unpleasantries of a broken marriage.

So tomorrow if you see a gorgeous face or words that assure you the life of extravagance, be interested, but add time to your equation to be sure you have found more than a face or words, but a person who will love you for a lifetime.
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  • Posted on 08/12/2011 09:37 pm
Wise counsel.... hehehehehe... well3 sometimes person get reckless and jump into a relationship without seeing where they could land with... they could land in rocky ground or in a trampoline... that would bounce them higher like wooohoooo... i am flying... but the most important i guess... is be responsible always in every decision that we had made... after all life is but a choice... choosing whom to marry, when and how will we work it out... will always depend on one hand and that is a hand made by hand and hand by both couples....